There is no doubt that being a wedding planner can be fun and incredibly rewarding. Going to catering and cake tastings, choosing linens and helping clients decide on the perfect centerpieces are absolutely fun. Seeing months of hard work come together on a perfect wedding day is one of the most rewarding experiences many wedding planners experience in their careers.
Being a wedding planner also has great perks such as being invited to all the industry parties, going to uber fun conferences and staying at incredible hotels while you “tour” the event space. We also get to work with wonderful clients on one of the most important days in their life.
Having a career as a wedding planner can seem pretty glamorous but there are definitely reasons why you wouldn’t want to become a wedding planner. There are days when I can hardly believe I get paid to do something I love so much but there are also days when there is not enough money in the world to make me plan or coordinate a particular wedding again.
What to consider before deciding to become a wedding planner:
1) Weekend and evening work
Weekend events and evening client meetings take time away from family and friends. Being a wedding planner means having a work schedule that doesn’t match the standard 9-5 weekday gig.
If you own your business, you can set boundaries to help with this and plan other types of events to balance your schedule. However, the reality is that 95% of weddings happen on Saturdays and many of your clients need to meet after work for planning meetings.
2) Physical and mental hard work
Working on the wedding day is HARD work. I remember my first wedding so well. I was beyond excited to work with my first clients but had no idea I would be so completely exhausted at the end of the night.
Spending 10-15 hours on your feet and being mentally “on” is exhausting no matter how good of shape you are in. And it gets harder as you get older.
3) Wedding hangover
It’s how you feel the day after a wedding. It’s like you ran a race then went out drinking all night. In reality, you are dehydrated, sore, and tired from working a wedding (see #2).
4) Tough clients
As much as you try to weed out the clients who aren’t ideal clients, there will be some who slip through the cracks. Having difficult clients can take its toll mentally. It’s already a stressful job but when you have clients who add to that stress, you will question why you chose this career. You have to be able to walk away from the wrong client when your intuition tells you something is wrong.
5) Emotional connection
It’s an intense industry with emotional brides and emotional mothers on a very emotional day. Many planners grow close to their clients which means you work harder because you care so much (this is a good thing).
On the flip side, it is hard not to take it personally if something goes wrong or if your clients are not 100% happy with your services or ideas. If you get your feelings hurt easily, this might not be the profession for you.
6) It’s not your wedding
Working with clients means making THEIR dream and vision come true. This can be a challenge for some event planners who want to keep recreating their own wedding or imposing their vision on clients.
You will end up planning a wedding that doesn’t fit your style or taste and you have to be okay with that. Luckily, you get to choose which weddings and events to show in your wedding planning portfolio.
7) Extreme patience
If you don’t have patience, determination, and thick skin, a career in wedding planning is probably not a good fit. It will take a few years before you are comfortable in your business and comfortable working with engaged couples. Then it will take a few more years to get your name established, make a decent living, and start seeing referrals.
8) You are not a “people” person
Planners work with many different kinds of clients and vendors. The wedding industry is very social and being a planner is probably the most social vendor category in the industry.
If you are introverted, shy, or don’t like to be around people, being a planner could be a difficult career choice. This isn’t to say that you can’t overcome those personality traits, but it is something to consider. Being an event planner may be the encouragement you need to overcome shyness.
9) Not able to handle stress
Being a wedding and event planner has been listed by CNBC as the 5th most stressful career. Out of ALL careers!
Many of us choose this career because we thrive on the excitement, the challenge, and the madness that happens on the wedding day. We live to solve problems, keep everything on time, and manage 20+ vendors without breaking a sweat.
If you can handle stress AND keep your cool, this might be a good career for you.
10) Multitasking and organization
Being a wedding planner takes multi-tasking and organization to a whole new level. Not only do you have to multi-task and remember the million things on your mind, you have to think and act quickly. During the planning process, you could be working with 10-20 different couples at a time.
If you aren’t extremely organized, it will show in your work and in your reputation. If you are working with 10 couples to plan their wedding and each couple has at least 10 wedding vendors, you may be communicating with up to 100 people in a week!
Confidence in yourself is a big key to your success in event planning. A big ego is not.
12) No passion
Don’t embark on a wedding planning career unless you are passionate about it. To be successful and thrive, you have to LOVE what you do. Many planners make incredible sacrifices to be successful. This just doesn’t happen without BIG passion. Along with passion, integrity is just as important.
After so much positive feedback on this post, I am sharing 3 more reasons why you may not want to become a wedding planner. Enjoy!
13) Making long-term commitments
When you first book a new client, it’s time to celebrate victory and rejoice in a new booking. It’s exciting and you can’t wait to get started. Until you realize the client can’t make decisions to save her life, changes her mind endlessly, and her wedding ideas are stuck in the 1980’s.
Despite these less-than-desirable-traits, you made a long-term commitment to work with this couple for a year or more to plan the perfect wedding day. You may need to bite your tongue many times and tough it out to get through the planning process with this client.
14) Negotiation and mediation
The wedding planning process is filled with negotiations and mediation. You may be negotiating with wedding vendors about your client’s contract, mediating the style of centerpiece between the couple and their parents, negotiating last minute rain plans with the rental company, or mediating a battle over types of appetizers with the couple. If you hate mediating and negotiating, becoming a wedding planner isn’t the right career path for you.
15) Business makes no sense to you
Many wedding planners own their own business. If you are not a “big picture” thinker and don’t have any desire to start a wedding planning business or learn marketing, accounting, networking, and finance, owning a wedding planning business probably is not a good fit for you.
You can still work in the wedding industry but will be better suited to working at a hotel, for an event planning company, or at wedding venue where you can focus solely on the clients instead of running a business in addition to planning and designing weddings.
Whenever you own a business, your income can fluctuate greatly. The typical salary for wedding planners is broad, depending on where you live and what types of services you offer. You may have years where you make a significant income and other years where you barely scrape by.
I could write a post with 500 great reasons to be a wedding planner but I wanted to share the not-so-glorious side with our readers. If you are thinking about becoming a wedding and event planner, these are great things to keep in mind.
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